Thanks to Sandy Jones-Kaminski the socially weary job-seeker has a new supporter. Here is a sample of her wisdom regarding the myths of networking:
Myth #1: Networking means you’re looking to use people to achieve selfish goals, or opportunistically ask people for help.
REALITY: The definition of the word network according to The Oxford Dictionary:
network n. & v. a group of people who exchange information, contacts, and experience for professional or social purposes.
Myth #2: You have to be a born networker or a natural at it.
REALITY: The skills needed to be an effective networker can be learned by anyone. Get comfortable asking folks you meet, “So, what are you working on these days?” or, “What do you need help with right now?” Then, just read my new book titled, “I’m at a Networking Event—Now What???” for more ways to further develop your networking muscle.
Myth #3: You must have above average charisma to be a good networker.
REALITY: You merely need to be thoughtful, sincere and genuinely helpful. You get offered a job or opportunities from people who are trusting of you. There IS a hidden job market out there, but you have to be willing to be open and giving to be part of it.
Myth #4: You have to be a good talker or an overly chatty “schmoozer” to be a good networker.
REALITY: The truth is it is almost the exact opposite. According to Guy Kawasaki, co-founder of Garage Technology Ventures, Forbes columnist, and author of the recently published, Reality Check, “The mark of a good conversationalist is not that you can talk a lot. The mark is that you can get others to talk a lot. Thus, good schmoozerʼs are good listeners, not good talkers.”